Friday, April 20, 2012

How You Can Be Prepared For An Empty Nest

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By Brianna Everplaston


The concept of time is very strange sometimes. Time brings changes. From tucking your little ones in bed every evening to suddenly transforming their rooms into spare bedrooms, time is full of surprises. There is no stopping time, and one day you will be faced with the eventuality of seeing your little ones step out into the big scary world. This is a pretty scary moment in your life as well, as you ponder the days of loneliness ahead. You can, however, make the transition easier if you arm yourself with the proper mindset.

Your perception of this stage in your life will affect the way you handle the transition. It is important for you to understand that your children's departure does not mean that they are deserting you. It also does not mean that your days or duties as a parent are done. This is a responsibility that will remain as long as you and your kids grace the earth, despite the fact that you no longer live under the same roof. It must be understood, however, that the nature of your responsibilities as a parent has now undergone a significant change. Gaining more independence is a natural progression that occurs as children age. By biding your time and offering encouragement when they need it, your relationship with your kids will turn into an even more cherished relationship based on friendship.

An empty nest can initiate a new level of romance in your marriage. When immersed in the 24/7 task of actively raising small children, the marriage often gets pushed to the back burner. Parenting is a full-time job. Often parents are too tired or rushed to find the time for brief romantic interludes. When the two of you have the house to yourselves, there is nothing keeping you from dancing in the living room, heading out for a movie without telling a soul, or eating ice cream in the buff, if that's what you enjoy. This is the perfect opportunity to rediscover your love for your spouse who has been a companion for you over all the exciting, busy years of child-rearing. You can now take time out for yourselves and relish in the comfort of each other without anyone to disturb you.

If you are a single parent, tending the children may have kept you from meeting new people. This is an opportune time to reach out to others, meet up with old friends, or make some new friends.

Be sure to take some time to consider your new situation before you make any major decisions. Though it can be unsettling for some, give yourself some time to adjust to an empty house and take pleasure in this new lifestyle. Set up a loose schedule for calling your children if they are off at school, to reassure yourself that they are, indeed, okay.

Even if you make all the preparations in the world, you are still going to feel the impact when your beloved children leave the house. The best way of going through this transition is to slowly restructure your life. However, it is advisable not to rush into things. It is necessary for you to spend some time reassessing your needs and what is most important to you. These things have definitely changed. Your duties as a parent are to raise and care for your children. You have fulfilled this role well and your children are likely to do you proud. Now it is time to realign your life with your personal goals. Quite frankly, you deserve it.




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